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Unleash Your Fire – San Francisco/Bay Area!

Unleash Your Fire – San Francisco/Bay Area!

Have you lost touch with your most passionate desires or simply pushed them aside?
Do you feel disconnected from your erotic, sexual self?
Do you want to feel more sensuality and passion in your life?
Do you want to wake up your playful creative side in a sexy, safe, women-only environment?

Unleash Your Fire workshops taught by Vixen Noir can HELP!!!

Unleash Your Fire is a sexy, fun, and sometimes challenging workshop for women that uses theatre, dance-movement, storytelling, visualization, writing, trust and intimacy exercises to help you tap into, reclaim and celebrate erotic power as your rightful sensual legacy!  Unleash Your Fire examines the idea that erotic power is not only connected to sexual pleasure, but it is also a creative and healing source that affects every aspect of our lives.  UYF workshops provide the opportunity for you to explore erotic power with other women in a safe and supportive environment that cultivates community building and individual and collective healing.

What you can expect from the workshop:

∑ Wake up your erotic power, reconnect with it or deepen the relationship that you already have.
∑ Discover creative and sexual parts of yourself you never knew existed.
∑ Experience the power of creative expression as a means of transformation.
∑ Embrace your sensuality and feel more comfortable in your body.
∑ With reflection and support from other participants, take an honest inventory of your desires and begin a journey towards healing and empowerment.

What participants are saying about Unleash Your Fire and Vixen Noir:

“Excellent workshop!   Very challenging but mixed in with lots of fun and support and love.”
    --Participant, 2007 Sydney Australia

“You have shown me everyone has Erotic Power.  You have helped me transform my dolly steps into flying leaps!”
    --Participant, 2007 Sydney Australia

“You are a dynamic, charismatic teacher; you’re caring and skilled… I'm a lot freer and at home with my body and my sensuality.  You taught me how to reclaim my inner erotic goddess, and I am forever grateful to you for that gift!”
    --Ama, Participant 2006 San Francisco

“I couldn't have asked for a sexier, more supportive space to create and become the truest version of myself. It's an experience I will never forget and will always be grateful for."
    --Mac, Participant 2006 San Francisco

Limited to 20 women!   Register Early!

Where:    Mama Calizo’s Voice Factory, 1519 Mission Street (@ 11th), San Francisco, CA (BART accessible!)
When:     Saturday, Feb 23, 2008, 9am – 5pm and Sunday, Feb 24, 2008, 10am – 5pm
Cost:       Register by Feb 4, 2008 and pay only $200.  That’s a 25% savings!!!
               After Feb 4, 2008, you pay $250
               Scholarships available.
More Info/To Register: Visit www.myspace.com/vixen_noir, or email vixen_noir@hotmail.com

Veronica C. Combs
veronicacombs@hotmail.com

So I had had this date....

Thats right Miss Dateless in Oakland finnally laded at date via Craigslist. You would think that the woman who knows everybody would be able to attract somone from within the community but I've had no such luck. I'm not saying that I'm cursed but I just haven't met anyone exciting enough to take that next step.

So I get all these responses to my post and I pick one. We talk back and forth for awhile and then finally we make dinner plans. I pick this cute little Italian restaurant right on the lake. I'm crazy about the bread and butter there...the other stuff was cool too but this date ya'll........how can I say it without sounding harsh...ok lets say uneventful...yeah thats good.

Our greeting was nice...warm hug, I got a flower, nice smile and then we sat down for dinner. We chat about choices and then we order. This is when the conversation is suppose to go down right? This is when I get to talk sexy and sassy we can swap silly stories and laugh or even talk about current events and policitcal views. I would have jumped on any topic if there was one. How can you go out with someone and not talk. I can understand shyness but can someone be totally void of personality and casual convo...if so stay far far far far away from me. How could I get to know you if you have nothing to say....or maybe thats where it ends. Nice shirt, nice smile and poof nothing more.

In all fairness there was nice dialouge through email correspondence. We talked about likes and dislikes. We shared our list of attributes that a partner should have...I was so happy the person knew the meaning of the word attributes ....I'm just sayin'.  Then we have this opportunity to shine further and I get matte  without a hint of gloss. I was glad I didn't have to pay for the meal....for me a good dinner is 10% service 40% quality of food and 50% company all I got was a 40% dinner and if I was alone I would have asked for the manager to complain.  In this case I offered to pay the tip and quickly called a cab to take myself home. The plan was too have dinner and then some drinks at a nearby lounge but I was done. All I wanted to do was go home and smoke that beautiful joint my friend gave me. I wanted to delete my posting on CL and delete all the emails of responses I got.(which I did the very next day) I'll go back to what I'm use to...being my popular self and hope that it gets me a quality date in the very near future.

I know you might read this P and I'm sure you might have felt differently about the date but I hate when people misrepresent themselves...all thats dark eventually comes to light and I was very c;ear about what I was looking for and you just didn't deliver. I wish you nothing but happeniess and I'm sure there is another exciting quite person out there waiting to be your one and only.Good Luck!

May the Funk be with you!

So I was at Butta last night...Good Times as usual. Pretty Ladies everywhere...some good friends to chop it up with, smoke with, etc, etc. I was on a mission this time. I told myself If I saw someone interesting I would talk to her. I'm determined to have at least a date this year so I gotta do things different to get new results.

My friend Ever asks me to dance and we start to cut a rug when I see this PYT from across the room. I'm digging the boogie afro punk look; growing out mohak, skinny jeans and slim flats. She was rocking a suit vest that announced her curves to everyone in the room. Ever leaves me on the dancefloor so I walk back to home base. I chop it up with my homeslice Dorian until Carol finds me. We do our usual meet and greet and then start our assement of the club highlights. She was mad because everyone she thought was cute was smoking. I was mad because I everyone I thought was hot was crazy. Then I pointed out my interest for the night to Carol.  She said lets go dance by her to get a better look. So we're dancing and we're laughing at our prospects when the music stops. They want us to sing Happy Birthday to Olga T. During this break for song and announcements  Carol decides to Introduce her self to Miss thang. Her name was ADA and she happily said hello to us.  Then we danced again when the music stopped. Carol, pleased with her intro left the floor. ADA who I was now dancing with pawned me off on her old ass friendin a white shirt. Since I don't get pawned I made my way over to some more receptive ladies and danced with them. One lady in particular makes me so nervous (because I think she's hot but can't tell her) yet I can't pull myself away from her cipher. We make nice and shoot smiles back and forth. I'm having a ball when here comes Carol who is coming to relay a message the ADA and her friend in the white shirt was looking for me....what looking for me...nobody ever looks for me....all excited I take my happy ass away from the lovely brown girl cipher to go see what ADA wants. While I'm pushing trough the crowd Carol lets me know that miss thang smells bad. Me in non-belief walk over to her, she smiles when she sees me and we start to dance close. All of a sudden I'm taken back to an In and Out burger moment. Alll I can smell is oninons. Hot steaming stinking ONIONS!!! This was really bad. She had the nicest hips, some pretty ass teeth so straight and bright white, her skin was butter soft and the sweetest shade of caramel. I danced with her until my eyes started to water. A nother real old lady started dancing behind me and ADA felt I should give her some time so she tried to pawn me off again but this time I left them both to be with each other. I had to get as far away from the funk as I could get. You fine as hell miss ADA but I can't hang with the that kind of funk.

Fresh Out

I went to Butta yesterday...always fun right? I love Amy and the yummy drink she made me. I told her I wanted something Tropical and she gave me what I think was called a pinnapple upside down cake....All I can say is that I felt Like I was having an out of body experience on the island of Lesbos. I felt warm, tingly and my eyes hurt from all the beauties fluttering around me.

I was enjoying my conversation with some new friends when I spotted this women I know of but don't know personally. She was here visiting a women she's been dating via the web. I know that she will be leaving soon to go back to the midwest where she is in collage. Thats the set up here is the drama:

*The visitor is 10 years younger than the woman she's dating. Since she has been here they've made their rounds to all the clubs. Dream EZ, The W, Coochielicious and Butta. Each time I saw them out they never appear to be together only when arriving and leaving. The older woman had to dance with her friends because the younger girl wouldn't dance. What I did notice: Everytime the older woman went to dance the younger one got juicy eye fulls of other women in the club. Thoes eyes followed asses, titties and smiled at other women that passed her by. A few times I saw here reach her hand out in the way studs do to say hello to a pretty femme that comes in their path. Occasionally you will see the couple exchange some nice pleasantries amongst each other but the younger one would be looking at other women while she was in an embrace with her girlfriend.

A few things come to mind here. When someone is just coming out or involved in their first relationship other women are Pretty Hot and Tempting. One tends to have a roving eye and roving heart until they are completely acclimated in Queer life. I feel for the older woman who has no idea that her new love will only be around long enough to find someone they think is better. I also feel for the younger women who has found someone fun to date and yet is too new to the game to take the relationship serious. Coming out time should never be a time for a deep relationship and most of us get that part wrong so we look back at our life within the first year of coming out with disgust at home much pain we've caused people who was around to love us and we stepped on their hearts because we thought something else was better out there.

Ok I'm speaking a little bit from personal experience. I 've been on both sides of this story. The first person who liked me intorduced me to the community and we had an sexy affair. I was just getting my feet wet and she fell in love. I didn't handle it well at all and now that I look back there has been no one in my life since who will compare to the love, support and consideration she has bestowed on upon me. ( if you are reading this E.I. u have a place in my heart 4 ever) Then about 10 years later I start dating this woman who is about 8 years younger than me. She was mad hot and mad talented. Out love affair had a slow and sexy start and then heated up to a bubbling boil just to go real cold because she felt that making love to a woman didn't make her gay. ( Well that was complete bullsh*t)  A month later after we stopped seeing each other she got a new girlfriend and was suddenly out to the whole damn world.

The message to this segment is know where you are and be honest about it. Don't get too deep with a person who is "Fresh Out" because being the first often means you will not be the last.  Newbies can avoid a long list of lesbian carnage by letting people know in advance that you just want to date that person and other people. Being clear can keep your conscious clear because you are not responsible for other people catching feelings after you've told them what was up.

*(the drama segment was embellished to protect the innocent and the gulity)